Lori, tell us a little about yourself.
Like most authors, I first became interested in writing as a child. I published my first piece of flash fiction in a local newspaper fifteen years ago – and then I stopped writing. I simply lost the creative impulse. I don’t know where it went or why, but it was gone. I went to work in accounting, with which I was quite happy for a time. Then about two years ago, I inexplicably got the urge to write again. I finished my first book – My Life with Michael: A Story of Sex and Beer for the Middle-Aged – in four months. Once I realized that no publisher was going to even look at my novel until I had some other credits to my name, I started writing short work – flash fiction, essays, memoirs – any idea I had, I wrote something about it. Within a year I had twenty-five publishing credits and finally felt confident enough to start sending my book around to publishers again. In the meantime, I completed my second novel, Just the Three of Us, an erotic romantic comedy that I dearly love – even after all the rewrites, it still cracks me up. I’m currently 120,000 words into a mega-monster of a novel entitled On an Island: How One Woman Spent Twenty Years Shipwrecked On an Island with Sixteen Sailors and Lived to Tell the Tale. I’m very enthusiastic about this book, but it’s going to be so huge that I’m guessing it’ll be at least a year before I finish it. Also, since I enjoyed Just the Three of Us so much, I’ve begun work on a sequel. Phew! Writing is exhausting.
Why do you write erotica?
Sex is one of many subjects that I find intriguing. The sexual scenario is rife with possibilities for storytelling, and may be approached from countless different angles (no pun intended), from the deathly serious to the outrageously comic. Personally, I tend to be most interested in stories about sex that aren’t mainly for the purposes of titillation. To me, sex is an integral part of human life, and it’s therefore only natural for it to be the central focus of many of our stories.
What are peoples’ reactions when they find out you write erotica?
If they know me at all, they’re not very surprised.
The media has reported that around 30% of American women consume porn on a regular basis. What do you think about that?
It doesn’t surprise me a bit. Women have probably been consumers of pornographic materials for as long as men have; but in previous eras, the types of pornography that were available to them were severely limited. Modern pornography is just the more sexually explicit version of the old-time “romances,” and it certainly doesn’t hurt that nowadays you can access all of the porn you want without having to go down to the adult book or video store and browse with all of the men. The internet has definitely decreased the embarrassment factor of consuming porn for both women and men, particularly, I think, for those who have kinky or fetishistic preferences. In addition, with more women now being involved in the production of pornography, it stands to reason that modern-day erotica is geared more towards women’s tastes.
Do you watch porn and if you do what is your favorite kind of porn to watch?
Of course. Except I call it “research.” 😉 I’m a woman of many moods – I don’t have a particular favorite kind of porn.
What advice do you have for women who want to write erotica?
Don’t forget that the writing comes first, the sex second. If all you’re writing about is he did this and she did that and it was hot, then your novel or story is not going to be as compelling as it could be. It’s great to have a hot concept. But wording matters. Story structure matters. Writing sexy isn’t enough. Be a writer first – the erotica will follow.